Monday, October 7, 2013

How to Like Someone and Not Go Apeshit (updated!)

Objective: Extract self from said person's hold.

  1.  Don’t get lost in the moment.
  2. Worry–but not about him/her! Think about school, college, your fish, whatever.
  3. Dive into your activities. Stay busy.
  4. Be aloof. Be distant and glacial. This will allow you to empower yourself (sometimes this makes the person want you [more], but it's not a guarantee, and shouldn't be the motivating factor anyway). 
  5. Talk to your friends. Love them up! Remember how much they mean to you.
  6. Look at some hot people. That might mitigate your overwhelming infatuation with this person.
  7. Play loud music. That usually fixes a lot of brainfarts.
  8. Be snarky and sassy (NOT pessimistic and depressed!).
  9. Remember who is in control (you).
  10. Don't target the person. Don't try to force things to happen. Let the chips fall where they may; go with the flow. Falling for someone can be really tumultuous and stressful, and the best way to remain peaceful is to let go of your expectations and just let be (think of Hamlet–"If it be now, ’tis not to come. If it be not to come, it will be now. If it be not now, yet it will come—the readiness is all. Since no man of aught he leaves knows, what is ’t to leave betimes? Let be."). 
P.S. I dug this thing up from almost two years ago and edited a bit because I needed something to post. :P It's not really applicable to me right now hahaha. Just... FYI...

*UPDATE: Please don't be mean to the object of your affections, by the way. It's really not his/her fault if the feelings are not returned; no one can force himself/herself to summon certain emotions. And, in your efforts to bring some peace to your poor heart, don't be cold in your 'distancing'. That's not exactly what I meant. Stay friendly (because friends are good, and one could always use more friends)!

**UPDATE: I just realized that my favorite book series ever, Harry Potter, perfectly demonstrates what I'm saying here!! In The Order of the Phoenix, Ginny gets past the girly googly eyes so that they can finally be friends. One year later, they're together as one of the best canon couples ever! YAY!